Advise on Parenting
Parenting is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. A good parent is the one who encourages the child to do something he or she enjoys doing; instills in the child a strong sense of morality; who corrects when the child goes wrong; teaches the importance of respect and diligence; and who impart in the child the willingness to learn. Parenting is a higher calling whether you are a Christian or not. Teachers are also in parenting since the child spends some appreciable amount of time with them. Teachers do not just impart knowledge but also help in molding the character of the child too.
Parenting in crisis time like what we are experiencing now is somehow stressful due to the fact that you are confined to a smaller space to operate which will not have been the case on a normal day. Everyone is suffocating in this situation we find ourselves since no one bargained for it but, as a parent, this is the time to exercise a high level of patience. A quote by Sakeena Abdullateef says that we should "Make the good out of the bad and make the best out of the worst". Most parents do not know the actual personality of their children so this is an opportunity for us to assess them and ourselves to know whether were are up to the task bestowed on us as custodians of the children. Parenting is frustrating but I will urge you to stop dwelling on the negatives of your child, whisper to their ears words of encouragement, do activities with them and let them feel at ease when they are around you.
Some parents are too strict, they do not have any cordial relationship with their children. They only have a master-servant relationship. Be flexible so that your children can play around you. Offer them the enabling environment to bring out their innermost potentials. Let them feel at ease to discuss everything with you. Yes, they have to learn but what are they learning for? Yelling at them at this pandemic period will not help since they also have their own frustrations. As they continue to be in the house, they will overeat, break plates, destroy the remote control, but this is also an opportunity to be observant in order to unearth the capabilities of your children. Some may be good at selling, singing, and playing instruments, others too may be good at creating and inventing new things. Help them to discover who they really are, since that may be their source of greatness in the future.
Mothers especially should relax on their children since we are in this together. Proverbs 22: 6 admonishes us to "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it". That is the whole duty of a parent, to direct the children from going wayward. Above all things, remember to create a loving home to support your child since no one planned for this. They can sometimes stay awake too late in the night especially the younger ones and you wonder what they are up to, but don't be strict, be flexible and allow them because they are also humans like we adults who sometimes find it difficult to fall asleep.
Positivity is contagious so use positive words on your children. Words are spiritual so never use cursing words on them out of frustration and regret later. Instill godliness in them by leading them to Christ and try to meet their basic needs with love.
May the Almighty God grant us the strength and wisdom to sail through this divine call to duty peacefully. Amen! #sparksinspiration
Written by: Susana Adentwi
The Writer is a teacher, parent, and inspirational speaker.